When the Bride Doesn't Want a Hen's Party
Here at Party in Canberra we've been doing the wedding fair circuit lately and talking to plenty of Brides to be. We're finding one phrase that's coming up a lot ... "I don't want to have a hen's party". Once we get past that initial shock that someone could possibly not want a hen's party (A reaction which is similar to the one I get when I tell people I don't drink coffee) we talk to the bride about why it is she doesn't want a hen's party...
and we found out this...
More often than not the bride actually does want a hen's party.
There are some exceptions to this, mostly it's due to differing cultural traditions, or complicated family issues, but for the most part a day of making memories with her besties sounds incredible.
Now I hear you ask "Why is she saying she doesn't want a hen's party if she actually does want one." and the answer is this. There are a few things that she really doesn't want, and "I don't want a hen's party is the easiest way to avoid the real list of things she doesn't want.
What she ACTUALLY doesn't want
1. A naked dude there,
2. To be embarrassed.
3. All the tacky paraphernalia that usually comes with a hen's party (Penis things, feathers, and all the hot pink things you find in a $2 shop).
4. Her friends to have to play a bunch of tacky party games.
5. Her friends to spend huge amounts of money needlessly.
What she would like instead
1. Having an adventure with her friends.
2. Doing something that she normally wouldn't make time to do.
3. Something Nanna will still approve of.
4. Something unique that celebrates her as an individual
If you've just read this an thought, "ahh... ok, I get it now... but now I have absolutely no frickety idea what to do" I recommend you sit down with the bride and really talk to her about it. Find out exactly what it is that is worrying her. If she truly 100% has no interest in a hen's party, then don't do it, but having the conversation means that you will know where she stands.
If after your deep and meaningful chat you and she realise that she does want a party, she just doesn't like the stereotype hen's party then get in contact with Party In Canberra and book a hen's party planning consultation. We'll talk you through planning the perfect hen's party for your bestie, including all the things she doesn't even know she wants yet.
Xo Jess
